the blog of a disabled mother who likes to game, and "get in the pit"
That I was recently given a picture of Bub’s father volunteering at one of his church events from a few years ago, and as much as I had thought that there would be some degree of paternal resemblance, there is absolutely no resemblance… and although they are related, I find this absolutely hilarious and ironic. I do.
Enclosed is a picture of one fresh Bub, the child that his father does not look like in any way, shape, or form.
This is what happens when I let my youngest son actively participate in taking selfies, y’all. This right here.
I got a lot of pictures of Bub’s first excursion to the park that’s down the road from our house, but this one happened to be my favorite of them all. We’ll probably walk down there more often since he likes it so much.
This is actually something that I have heard gamer (gaming?) parents say.
It’s usually also the ones who state that “anyone who uses walkthroughs is not a real gamer, or not a good enough gamer,” so the two kind of go hand in hand. I try to avoid these parents if I see them “out in the wild”.
They literally say, with their mouths, that if their kids struggle in a game that they will not help them. Or some of them say that they will, but that they “won’t help them with the final boss, because they have to do it on their own”. Do you know what kind of message that might send your struggling kid, especially if they’re young? Not only do the kind of parents that say these things tend to… carry it over into other aspects of parenting, but this is a really fantastic way to make your child want to give up on gaming (which is another thing that these parents, the Patrons of Gaming, would probably seethe over if it happened in front of them).
Tell me though, what is so bad about helping your child when they need it?
What is so bad about helping your child when they need any sort of help from you?
Because that sends the message that they can come to you for help for any reason and that you will be there to help them no matter what. And this will achieve exactly what you want to achieve but are going about trying to achieve in the worst possible way — your child will remain interested in video games and might pass that interest on to their children. (Or, you could do exactly what you’re doing now, cause your child not to be interested in video games at all, and stop that with this generation. This is your call here…)