Branching off of the “men causing apprehension and anxiety” post that I made not too long ago, there was something else that I wanted to bring up: there was another reason that I left, and will not return to, this Discord server or any of the satellite servers that I had joined made by people who were a part of the original server. Fortunately for me I did not waste a substantial amount of time on these servers, although I did make a few friends on them that may or may not continue to be my friends depending on if they read what I’ve had to say about… the main server, and how they feel about that. I’ve been Tweeting about it, making fun of the mod who said that “this is not up for debate” when I’ve pointed out what I’m getting to.

At any rate, getting the show on the road: although the streamer of this server (or these servers, if you want to get technical) has been accused of grooming children — something that I don’t think she’s done because she doesn’t even appear to have the time to do it, let alone any of the proclivities — I do think that the people on her server, particularly the moderators, don’t know how to have decent or even appropriate interactions with minors, who I know for a fact are members of her server. If you’re not related to the minor in question, you shouldn’t be talking to them online, even if you claim that you’re “being a role model” to them — this is an absolutely horrible, flimsy excuse, and you should feel bad for even attempting to use it. If you are an adult, you don’t have anything in common with an unrelated minor that you are more than a few years older than, excepting Romeo and Juliet sorts of situations. You don’t need to be their “friend”, their “special friend”, whatever you want to call it — your behavior is predatory and you are grooming them. The main server implicated in all of this has set up channels where minors can… talk to adults like this, ones that you have to substantially level up for within the scope of the server’s leveling system to be able to access, and that says all that needs to be said right there: the fact that moderators have gone to such great lengths to hide these chats means that they know that what they are hiding is very inappropriate. None of this is appropriate.

I have absolutely no faith that the mods, or people directly involved in this, will ever change though.

Mistake one: I return to the server that I mentioned quitting in here several days ago.
Mistake two: Having decided that it is no longer worth it to mask, I begin forming authentic friendships with some of the people chatting in the general channel on this server by talking about the necklace that a now-deceased friend had made for me (and identical copies mailed to other friends) after her passing to remember her by, knowing that she had made it clear that she did not mind this being discussed with other people because she wanted more people to learn about cystic fibrosis and sign up to be organ donors

One of the mods decided to attempt to corner me claiming that I “shared too much information” when I share about as much information in Discord channels as I share in this blog, the irony being that my current living situation does not permit and is not going to permit people from the Internet to come onto the property for any reason. I am an adult, and furthermore, I am comfortable with the amount of information that I share online. That being said, it is not up to you to determine what amount of information I should or should not share. And furthermore, it is highly inappropriate for you as a male to corner people — especially women — on the server as other people have nodded to you doing to mold them to your whims when they have broken a server rule or you feel that they have broken a server rule. Whether you admit it or not, and whether you even acknowledge it or not, this practice is abusive. Without warning, you indefinitely mute people when you feel they have broken a rule (and given your behavior, that is why I’m saying things like “you feel”) before dragging them into a separate channel to lord over them telling them things like “this is not up for debate”.

This is a Discord server, and you are taking things way too seriously attempting to assert dominance over women engaging in predatory behavior meant to cause apprehension and anxiety. I mean, seriously now? None of this behavior is friendly, nor will it get you any of the results you want long-term unless the results you want have anything to do with criticism of your (the server you moderate) server’s moderation team.

All I did was talk about the necklace that my now-deceased friend had made and sent to me to remember her by, and shared pictures of her that she had consented to and made public before her death before you went on your… how can I describe it? Passive-aggressive tirade? Is that just how you operate? If so, please leave me out of it. If writing this post gets me kicked out of the Discord server in question — or more, banned from it — I won’t be surprised. But this is my blog, and this is where I get to write about how I feel and vent.