May 2021 archive

06
May
2021

DoorDashing on Bub’s dime: Subway!

categories: personal; word count: 243 words

Bub and I have a new… thing that we do, although we readily invite Monster into it as well.

It seems to be our special thing, and a way that we’ve begun to bond.

We use some of the child support that he receives on DoorDash. It’s a great way to broaden his palate, and it avoids actually having to go out and get the food, which is even greater in a global pandemic. So far we’ve tried Subway to everyone’s satisfaction, and I budgeted this into his child support payments as a weekly thing. At this point, I think Bub is “down” for anything that has copious amounts of bread in it. The person that Dashed Subway for us also read the instructions that I left them, which stated not to ring the doorbell because I didn’t want it to scare our dog or my kids. I told them that I would periodically be checking to see if our food was out there, and then I found out that you can actually track deliveries, which makes DoorDash even greater as far as I’m concerned. I think we’ll try some fast food items, to include ones that I haven’t had in years (does Bub like Arby’s? would Bub like Arby’s? let’s find this out at some point). This will be really fun.

I mean, this money has to be spent some way. Why not spend some of it on fun, educational, yummy things?

04
May
2021

The state can stop playing these games now.

categories: personal; word count: 411 words

Normally, as part of some of the state benefits that we receive, cooperation with child support is mandatory.

You have to let them at least attempt to enforce a child support order if one is on file.

However, if there is any risk to the child(ren) or you that could come about as a result of this, you can get what’s called a good cause waiver against enforcement, and having one of these means that any child support order your child or children have will not be enforced as part of “cooperation” to get state benefits. My oldest son’s case has had a good cause waiver on it for nearly the entire time that he has had a finalized custody order because there absolutely is no safe way to attempt to enforce child support — the one time the state accidentally did, which is a story in and of itself and part of the reason that I am making this post, he quit his job in retaliation, and I was made aware of the fact that he… retaliated in and of itself when he did this. When this happened, it was also made clear to me that behavior from Bub’s paternal family met the criteria for emotional abuse with the risk of it becoming physical abuse “if provoked”, and a good cause waiver was placed on his child support case as well. As time went on, it was also stated that it should have qualified for one from the start, because the behavior from Bub’s paternal family was never… not there.

Anyway.

The only thing is that when these state benefits are renewed, the cases temporarily open and have to be closed back out by the child support office. This isn’t even a thing that should be happening. It’s gotten to the point that if my sons’ names cross the desk over there, their cases are immediately closed back out, and sometimes the child support office contacts Health and Human Services (HHSC) over them being “referred”, complete with the good cause waivers, in the first place. The child support office even went so far as to file motions with the court terminating their office’s assignment to both cases so that if HHSC “accidentally” refers them, they can’t work them. All they can do is close them out. The cases are not in their jurisdiction.

We shouldn’t be playing the game of “close them back out every time benefits are renewed” though.

02
May
2021

Since we are still medicating this thing…

categories: personal; word count: 200 words

Since I don’t think I’ve mentioned it here, my primary care doctor referred me to a wound care clinic. Through that, we found out that I am allergic to the adhesive in Tegaderm (and no, WordPress, that is not “megadeath”), so I had to be given… something that’s slightly different, a bit itchier once it stays on my skin for a long enough period of time, but not entirely bad. I was also put on two different antibiotics, and predictably at high doses, because of the severity of this wound. If side effects from these continue I’m going to be calling, or conversing with, the wound care clinic before the fourteen days are up that I’m supposed to spend on the longer of the two and asking if I can just be put on IV antibiotics. Apparently you can do those at home if you’re competent enough to manage your own care, and I would like to give doing those a try.

As the generation Z kids say, I have regrets about this wound care clinic… to include the fact that they do not prescribe pain medication that is not lidocaine for wounds even when the wounds clearly need medicating.

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