Someone that I was friends with who put her hands on her estranged wife and was outed as a sexual predator by those who had been intimate with her finally realized that I had… for lack of a better way to put it, blocked her on everything (because I did, and for that reason, so I’m not even going to dispute that), and she decided to whine to someone that both of us knew claiming that I “was getting information about the abuser for the other side” when I didn’t even know until the day that I cut her out of my life what she did, which other people can vouch for, and then she has the nerve to say that I… continued to talk to my children’s fathers — who are not in their lives, who are not allowed to be in their lives — “until it was no longer convenient for me” or something. I’d like to know when it was convenient for me to have anything to do with either one of them past the point of gestation, to be honest. I’ve discussed the things that… happened on my personal Facebook because almost none of what I write there is public, and I at least like to think that I appropriately vet people. I was also consistent with this person, as I am with everyone, explaining that my current living situation does not allow me to invite people from the Internet onto the property… and this person did not seem to be comfortable with that, presumably thinking that I would make an exception for her or that an exception would be made for her when it was not my exception to make.

I like — and by that, what I really mean to say is don’t like — people assuming things about me when almost all of them are right there on my Facebook page (if we need to have this sort of conversation, you should know me well enough by now), let alone bringing my children’s fathers into something that was and continues to be not at all related to you or the issue at hand. If it’s any consolation, you’re about to join them on the short list of people that I can’t trust, who cause me concern and make me feel exceedingly uncomfortable. I’m mincing my words here. People reading this probably know just how I feel about this.

The conversation that I mentioned participating in yesterday devolved to the point that the person on the other end of it creeped me out, creeped my friends on Facebook out, and creeped my followers on Twitter out because he wanted personal information having to do with a minor child of mine. I wasn’t about to give him enough information to dox either one of us, and many of my friends felt the same way. I reported him to Twitter for stating that he would like to see women that didn’t believe in a higher power or live their lives accordingly treated like alleged witches during the Salem witch trials, and I’m not going to get any further into the incredibly creepy interest that he had in one of my minor children — all the more hilarious because in public spaces I do not use their real names. There are reasons why I do not divulge certain things online, let alone give names or locations to some of the more specific things, and I think this dude managed to encapsulate all of why in just a series of Tweets. Men really need to take the stop being creepy challenge.

I have someone in my Mentions wanting to argue theism and the alleged existence of supernatural deities (I tend to lump almost all of them together, not giving any particular favor to the one most frequently called God), who at the same time wants me to take time out of my day, do his homework for him, and research things that he should be able and willing to research on his own. I told him that my time and effort are not free, and that if he wanted me to do his homework for him the least he could do was make it worth my while paying me for my effort. This seems to be the thing with people like him, and at that, men like him. Most of them are just not worth debating when all of their “gotcha”, “gimme” gambits… don’t work. If I give you the name of a law or a regulation, or cite that, and you want to know more about that the onus is generally on you to do the requisite research if there are things regarding those things that you do not know about or need clarification on. But I suppose most of this draws back to the fact that I am attempting to engage in conversation with a Texan conservative, which I hope not to have to do in the future if I can somehow get out of this state. I don’t see Texas getting any better, and I would love to raise my kids in a better state.

Regarding the person I mentioned unfriending and blocking on social media, another few things: she laid hands on her estranged wife, and people have come out about their experiences in relationships with her (she’s polyamorous) in ways that make it clear that she is a sexual predator. In writing this post I am striving to be as vague as possible so as not to give any details about her wife — who I am and would like to continue to be friends with — or these people than are needed to paint her in exactly the sort of light she should be painted in. Some people who have information on this… situation wonder if she’s going through a manic episode that would explain the majority of what I’ve written about in here when it comes to her, but although it could possibly explain it, none of it is justified by it. Days before I decided to cut her out of my life, which is a decision that I do not regret, she had begun to love bomb me in a way that made me increasingly uncomfortable. The day that I wound up unfriending her and blocking her on anything she was adamant that her job would “take her down to my city”, which happens to be a few hours south of where she lives, and was pushy about wanting to meet me in person to hug me even though I thought I’d made it clear on more than one occasion that my living situation does not let me invite folks over that I don’t know in person.

I believe that she did to her wife exactly what has been said about it, and I believe the people that have spoken out about their sexual experiences with her. My only regret is that I didn’t find out about this sooner.