I’m just using this picture of Bub here because it’s a cute picture that I took.

But in relevant news, I got into a debate with a nihilist that wanted to double down on everything, and… sparing you the details, never do that. I’m not sure if they were intentionally sealioning (and yes, that is a thing) on every topic that came up or they weren’t aware that they were actually that obtuse, but they were. It was also one of the few discussions that actually saw the “Nazi card” properly invoked, too. The individual in question only admitted that “fit” people should breed and that disabled people “should not”, and they seemed to wonder why this invoked a lot of ire from more participants that began to join the debate… discussion… whatever you might like to call it. I am now going to draw a hard line in the sand at actually talking to those kind of people, though. If you sincerely hold those beliefs, I will end the conversation with you as soon as you bring them up. No espousing Aktion T4 sentiments on my watch, please. Not during a global pandemic where more people are dying than we had sum casualties during the Vietnam War. And not during the Trump Administration. But not in general. Like, from now on, I don’t even care about proving these people wrong in debates and discussions by wearing them down with my normal, stubborn nature. Just no.

It is 2020. People should not seriously be espousing sentiments reminiscent of Aktion T4 in 2020. Seriously.

“Don’t agree to a divorce until she agrees to 50/50 custody and no state interference.”

You do realize that you “don’t have to agree” to a child custody order or a divorce for her to get one, right? You can only dodge a process server for so long before she can prove that she exhausted all possible attempts to serve you and what’s called “substituted service” can be performed, such as taping the service to your front door, serving you by mail, serving you by posting notice at the local courthouse if it is a divorce involving no minor children, or serving you by running an advertisement in the local newspaper (or the local newspaper of the area that you were last legally known to reside in the event that you are actively “on the run”). You can also choose to default on the finalization of your child’s custody order or divorce by continuing to refuse to cooperate, and absolute worst case, not know that a custody order or your own divorce has been finalized. There are provisions in place to ensure that if you want to be abusive, continue to be abusive, or try to “leverage” in situations like these that orders can be finalized, and they are for individuals like you.

There is also what I like to call the “LLC shuffle”, where the man puts an LLC in his wife’s name and intentionally has her cut him nearly poverty-level checks for that business thinking that the state can only garnish from those checks while she cuts herself an extremely large check, thinking that he is “getting one over” on his ex. What has begun to happen in cases like these are that the judge requests, or orders, discovery on the man, finds out what he has been capable of working — and a lot of time, the judge finds out that this was a really sudden, convenient move on the man’s part thinking that it was the most ingenious move ever to “get out of paying a whole lot of child support” — and then the judge imputes against the man what he is generally capable of being able to pay. Then one of two things happens: either the man starts to go into arrears quickly, or he begins paying what he is actually capable of paying in terms of child support.

I intend on getting into Father’s Rights Activists in later posts, but these are some of the games that they play, games that judges are becoming increasingly wiser to, especially because they are foolish enough to post them on their pages on social media. If the judges themselves don’t see them, their exes certainly do.