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You do realize that I run a tracker here, right?

The same people who complain that I view their Tweets when they misgender my friend and constantly call him by the wrong name are frequent fliers on this blog, sometimes going twenty-one pages back as they do so. You do realize that my internal tracker (Google Analytics, thank you very much) tells me all of this, right? In before some of you start claiming that it’s not legal or questioning the legality of it, it’s… literally Google Analytics. The only reason that it was ever even set up in the first place was because I wanted to know if Bub’s paternal grandmother and (one of?) her sisters were devoting hours to stalking me again because they have two extremely unique locations, and it would be impossible for them to say that “someone else from that area” viewed my blog in light of that. (This was actually something that was noticed by more than one state agency, too. The fact that this was happening. That they were doing this. I mean, it wasn’t “just me”.)

Sometimes expecting logic out of people is simply too much of an expectation, though. I’m just saying…

Not too long ago, I made a decision that wasn’t easy.

There were certain people that I considered friends on Discord who, for lack of a better way to put it, decided to intrude into my personal life in spite of being told not to… so it wasn’t even as though this was remotely blatant. Prior to this, they had been friends of mine. However, it got me to thinking — what is the line when it comes to situations like this? In the past, friends of mine have told me that perhaps I can be a bit too friendly for the sake of being nice to people and maintaining friendships, even when I shouldn’t. I’ve also been told by friends of mine that sometimes I put up with a lot more than I should, even (and especially!) when I shouldn’t, and that it is well within my rights to assert boundaries by stating that I am no longer willing to put up with people who would do this to me. For the sake of maintaining professional decorum, I will not actively seek these people out on the server that we are on, and I will be civil to them. That does not mean that I need to be polite or friendly, though. I can manage “not being cruel or mean to you but not being your friend” alright.

I have gotten, and am getting, more support for this than I realize, and I am thankful for it. Furthermore, it incentivizes me to continue to draw these boundaries as necessary for my own mental health. If someone with a history of domestic violence and sexual assault is exhibiting that what you are saying by virtue of your intrusion into their personal life really uncomfortable, you need to stop — one of them knew both of these things for a fact and the other one was probably told. You don’t get to claim that “someone is having a bad mental health day” if you caused it. I am sick and tired of being “so friendly” that I become people’s punching bag, especially if it is out of distress that I suddenly become a friendly people-pleaser in conversations. If you do this to me, know that you have not just intruded on my boundaries, you have violated them, and I will not want to be friendly or polite to you for awhile. Click send. Do the posting thing.

Covering an event that happened in my city in 2014.

This is the picture of someone who has been in the local jail for seven years, so, I mean… so much for a fair and speedy trial, right? But in May of 2014, police officers attempted to execute a no-knock warrant on this man’s apartment, and as soon as he realized that someone was breaking into his home — even if they were cops — he began firing back, and in the midst of everyone firing, a cop was shot beyond the confines of his bulletproof garb and would later succumb to that injury at a local hospital. This man, pictured right here, is facing the death penalty because that can be applied to someone in our state if they shoot and kill a member of the police. On a tip from what would later be revealed to be a bad informant, local law enforcement was able to get approval to execute a no-knock warrant in a matter of minutes. The judge who made this decision seriously made it in a matter of minutes. During the raid on his apartment, an officer tripped over a flash grenade which would come to obscure everyone’s vision. It is entirely possible that the cop who was shot was shot as a result of friendly fire, and this has been acknowledged. No attempts have been made to determine whether it was a bullet from Guy’s gun or a bullet from a police officer’s gun that killed this man.

As soon as this man realized that it was members of the police who had entered his home, he surrendered. In exchange, the police threatened to kill him as they arrested him, and in the process several of his girlfriend’s ribs were broken. Later, after he was arrested, his apartment was thoroughly searched, and there was absolutely no contraband or drugs in the apartment… none whatsoever. Despite the fact that our state is a Castle Doctrine (“castle law”) state, and one is under the law allowed to injure and possibly kill anyone who breaks into their domicile if they are a threat to their life, Guy currently sits in the county jail facing the death penalty for this. Years later, in large part due to this incident, no-knock warrants became illegal in our city. But the fact of the matter is that they were legal at the time this happened… and three public defenders so far have tried to encourage him to take a plea bargain in this case, which he refuses to do to this day.

I remember when this happened. I remember waking up at five in the morning clearly hearing gunfire. Since this city is… a bit known for the high crime rate that it has, I went back to sleep, but I would later come to find out that the entire street that this happened on had been blocked off, so I had to find an alternate route to my son’s speech therapy. Here I am though, wondering when this “speedy trial” will take place for this man.

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