October 2021 archive

Regarding the gene test results that I posted…

Through talking to some people, I found out that some of these tests consider Scandinavian DNA to be European (namely western European, from the United Kingdom) if it reports back to them at what they consider a “low confidence”. On my dad’s side of the family, I’ve been able to ascertain that I am predominantly Danish, some British, and… as for the rest of what has reported back over the years that I’ve done these tests, I’m still figuring out from whom might I have inherited what (or was it both of them?). I know that I am Swedish on my mom’s side of the family because her maiden name was extremely Scandinavian, and Ancestry reporting back that I am Swedish — then being able to tell from what side of the family that would be on — does not surprise me one bit. I mean, it would be from one of those countries.

I seem to be stuck with the Irish, Scottish, and Welsh DNA, and I say that with nothing but love at this point.

As for the Greek, southern Italian, and Balkan DNA, that’s where things began to get a bit interesting. When I first took a 23andMe test, before they made some updates to their algorithm, it reported back that I had southern European DNA at around this percentage. I have a cousin from whom I was able to tell exactly how we are related who has this at a higher percentage, and apparently a higher confidence level. So I was quickly able to figure out from exactly which relative this DNA came from, even if Ancestry and 23andMe “regard” the DNA with lower confidence than MyHeritage (my paternal great-grandmother). Interesting…

The other half of the story that I mentioned.

This goes along with this story in the event that you haven’t read it, to alleviate confusion.

After I had met this boyfriend in person, he divulged to me that he was (obviously illegally) obtaining opioids from the brother of a friend of his. This was not something that I had suspected while spending time in person, and I don’t think I would have suspected a thing at all had he not casually told me about it. He must have very been good at hiding, and balancing, what was clearly an addiction, as he was almost completely cavalier about divulging this information to me. Because he actually named the friend, I was able to find her by looking through who he had friended on social media — at the time, this was MySpace. I reached out to her and told her that I had some information about her brother that I thought she should know, and I gave her that information. She confirmed that I had contacted the right person and that the person with the prescription for opioids was indeed her brother. There came up the concern that he was being… for lack of a better way to put it, taken advantage of by who was at the time my boyfriend in vulnerable states, or in a vulnerable state. She thanked me for reaching out to her to tell her this — she’d honestly had no idea that this was even occurring — and told me that she, and his family, would work harder to ensure that he was not put in circumstances where this would happen. I told her that I felt bad that this was even happening and had reached out to her for that reason. And needless to say, this was the end of that relationship.

When he found out that would no longer be able to obtain the opioids that he had freely and regularly been obtaining up until that point, he got mad. And after he got mad, he tried to convince people that I had lied and made all of this up. His friend then pointed out that I knew about her brother (who was not mentioned on her MySpace) and knew what medication he had been prescribed, and she questioned how I would correctly have been able to put all of that together if I were not telling the truth. I would literally have had to guess that she had a brother, that he had a chronic disease that required the use of opioids to decrease pain, and that he was the one who had been supplying the person who, at the time, had been my boyfriend with them. Some time in the immediate aftermath of this, she ended her friendship with who had become my ex-boyfriend over what he had done and how he had responded to it when his access to this drug was cut off.

She also confirmed that his mother had left the state around when her benefits were being investigated.

If I weren’t staunchly opposed to all of J.K. Rowling’s works by now due to her transantagonism, I would definitely say that Hufflepuff might be my second house. In two circumstances I did what was right because it needed to be done, even though it was hard for me to do, and because the circumstances were both far cries from “splitting hairs” on. These were very clear cases of agencies, or people, being taken advantage of.

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