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I am laughing hysterically at the irony in all of this.

I’m laughing, because I found out that while my abuser lived in my state he owed so much in court costs and fines that he had been blowing off that a separate warrant was put out for his arrest for these things while there was also a warrant for the original assault offense. (Our state gave up on going after these things for him a year after he had fled the country, not knowing that he had fled the country at that time, because all that could be done short of arresting him and making him serve time had been done — they just couldn’t find him to arrest him, or to make him serve that time, after his probation for assaulting me was revoked because he knew that he couldn’t bail out if he got picked up on that.) And I’m laughing even harder because I found out that for reasons that didn’t even have to do with child support because it wasn’t even being pursued, he got his license suspended, which he never bothered to fix… he just continually drove around on it, getting ticketed, not showing up to court for any of these — this escalated them to bench warrants — and bailing out, rinsing and repeating the entire cycle, which eventually culminated in his license becoming deactivated. Now my guess is that he chose not to renew it because he didn’t want to have to deal with the fact that it had been suspended, and he didn’t want to have to prove residency to the DMV because he doesn’t want anyone to know where he lives. The good thing about this is that he can’t get a license in any other state until he deals with this suspension, and we all know that he’s never coming “back down here” because he doesn’t want to have to deal with the repercussions of his actions. He also doesn’t want anyone, anywhere, knowing where he lives, which is why he’s been using a passport that he’s had as identification (an expired passport is a legally acceptable form of identification in all states here in the United States, heh).

In 2014, our home state also made the decision not to aggressively pursue him for the warrants that he did have out for his arrest, because at this point he had begun to make actionable threats of harm directed toward other people. So when our county did round-ups, although the warrants were and continue to be valid, they were never included on the list. All of this has been keeping him out of the state, because he couldn’t keep himself out of the country for as long as he would have liked. So now he’s got a deactivated license that he refuses to rectify, a domestic violence conviction on his record, and he’s just added a shoplifting conviction to his record. (He’s also working on a revenge porn charge.) I’m going to love pulling his criminal record sometime in 2023, which is something that I would like to do, to have on hand in case he ever violates the restraining order and no-access court order contacting me or my child to bother us. Just in case…

The equivalent of a subtweet, but in blog form.

If you can’t be considerate enough to be direct enough with me to tell me how much you want me to correspond with you, and how you want me to correspond with you, you can’t — or at least, you shouldn’t, but if you’re reading this you should be able to tell how that went — blame me, as an autistic person, for not knowing how much you want me to correspond with you, or in what way. But I’m not going to play into any attempts you may make to manufacture drama. If you’ve decided that you no longer want to be friends with me, it is what it is. I’m not going to fight with you, or “hard chat” you, or… whatever it is that people who used to use America Online, who have since migrated over to Discord, are now doing. As I’ve said more than once, I am too old for drama. I don’t have time for drama. I can spare the occasional thought in regards to it, and maybe a blog post whenever something happens, but aside from that I’m not going to carve out time in my life or my schedule for this sort of thing beyond those parameters. I will not give myself to drama any further.

Times like these make me regret the fact that my mother let the computer babysit me as I grew up. I learned a lot of functional skills from it, but still. Things like this almost make the whole thing in general not worth it.

I’m old enough to make some of these jokes now.

One of the things that I love doing is monitoring my credit. It’s different in the different bureaus (which is, as I know, to be expected), but within the different… scoring models, is also different there, and when you have a sense of humor like mine, that can get amusing. Oh, why can’t all of these be the same? Why can’t there be just one credit score? (I know, I know. Seriously, I know. I’m old enough to joke and lament about this now.)

On to things that are very much not actual jokes now, though…

It still hits hard that Jason David Frank is actually gone, and why he is gone. I’ve still been trying as hard as I can not to actually talk about the cause of his death, which has been confirmed, because I don’t want to throw that into people’s faces — I don’t want to cause them distress or trigger them, so I leave it at the fact that yes, he has regrettably passed away. I did get the chance to watch the celebration of life that his loved ones allowed to be livestreamed on his official Facebook fan page, though. In the interim (November 22nd, to be exact), I’ve begun to develop almost excruciating back pain — sciatica — that I began treating with prednisone, which it was really rather responsive to, but I know that I can’t stay on prednisone forever due to the side effects… so it returned within about a day and a half of me stopping prednisone, and my care team has become aware of this. If sciatica came about due to the frequent prednisone use I’ve needed due to asthma and migraines, this would not surprise me at all, though… but this has become painful. I hate pain.

If Tumblr IP bans me for this, it’s for the best.

I’ve decided to make another account on Tumblr since it seems that no matter how much I warn people on social media about their critical site security issues, all of which continue to remain open (you know, the ones that I’ve periodically mentioned going back as early as May of 2022 when they were hacked and refused to mention it or patch the exploit that hackers were using to gain unauthorized access to their site?), I might as well make an account on Tumblr and use that account to discuss their site security issues. I am also open to discussing the other issues that Tumblr has that they refuse to fix, and there are no shortage of those. Again, it’s not going to bother me if their response to me doing this is to suspend my account and IP ban me from their site, as it will only prove that what I was saying about their site security issues — and other issues — were accurate. Tumblr has had some potential, and would have even more potential if they were ever amenable to fixing these issues, even if some people… make fun of the content that’s been up on their site (and the content that continues to go up on their site). That’s neither here nor there, I suppose. My favorite blog will always be here, though. This will always be the blog that I continue to prioritize. But for the sake of continuing to shitpost about Tumblr’s abhorrent site security and all the other things wrong with them…

http://www.history-cross.tumblr.com

Let’s see how long this stays up and what Tumblr’s official reaction to this if and when they find out about it.

I mean, in a truly nihilistic world, they could go the way of Twitter with no competent hands left on deck.

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