Since I now have a ring light and tripod for our camcorder, I’ve been in the process of setting those up in my room trying to find the best possible places for them… and I think I’ve actually found a decent place for my ring light. It was a bit awkward at first, but I finally found a good place for it on my desk. The fun thing is going to be setting the tripod up. That’s going to involve some work, and I’m going to be busy for awhile setting that up and then finding a good shot to record, because I’ll have to keep looking at the camera’s view, move the tripod, look at the camera’s view, move the tripod… yeah, this is going to be fun until I get the shot.

I did set the controls for the ring light up right next to my laptop, though. And I do want the ring light on my desk, and everything set up “in front of” my desk, because that will most optimally work for me. I can quickly edit everything this way too. Just take the camera off of the tripod, hook it up to the computer via the cord…

The most busy part about everything will be setting up the tripod and getting the initial, most workable shot.

And probably making sure that Bub doesn’t actually touch anything, but I’m also going to be getting a lock that will allow me to lock my bedroom door from the outside so that he can not get into my bedroom while I am elsewhere in the house and not in or near my room. This way, I won’t actually have to babysit my room…

Having mentioned “Father’s Rights Activism” here before, and seeing more and more pages pop up where men (and various allies of theirs) congregate together claiming to want as close to a 50/50 time share of their children — which I’m not even going to dissect other than to say that a lot of the men that I see affiliating with these pages for this reason want that time share to try and “get out” of having to pay, or owe, child support to their exes, and many of them make it extremely obvious in their words and their actions — I’ve begun to see one thing stick out like a sore thumb: “if she’s getting my child support, I want receipts”. “I want to know exactly how she’s spending my money”. Calling it “leech support”, as though their children must be the leeches that benefit, supposing they consistently pay. Calling it “extortion money”. Practically screaming that she must be spending it on her hair, her nails, her new boyfriend, her other children, sometimes getting hostile in how they word this. (Some of these pages I don’t interact with for this reason.)

There’s a word for this, and something that is being studied more frequently now: financial abuse.

If they can no longer control their exes through their relationships with her, they’ll control her through financial support of their children if they can’t avoid their obligation to pay. In certain circumstances, I honestly think that child support should not even be drawn up, and I think that this should go beyond the non-custodial parent being disabled and having that “on record” — that, barring incarceration for the entire length of time that the child will spend a minor, is currently the only circumstance wherein child support is either not drawn up or is “recorded” as owed at $0 (depending on where you live and how this is handled). Some lawyers will say, “Oh, but the judge won’t sign off on a custody order or divorce decree if something isn’t ordered! You can just elect not to ever have the child support case worked!” Some of the people that participate on these sorts of pages write in with “success stories” of how they “got 50/50 and no child support ordered”, but assuming that these stories are even true, this apparently involves a lot of judge shopping and basically forcing the judge’s hand with no one being on any sort of public assistance… or it being made clear that if this isn’t ordered, the non-custodial parent (usually a him in this circumstance, it’s almost always a him in this circumstance) is going to fight the system as hard as he can and little to nothing is going to get paid anyway, the custodial parent for whatever reason is fine with this, so why bother fighting it by refusing to sign the “agreed upon” order. But it stands: asking for receipts is financial abuse.

These men trust these women with their children, or else CPS/DHS would have been called, or they would have fought harder in court to obtain primary custody of their children. It wouldn’t have been impossible.

They just need to admit that if they want receipts so badly they are financial abusers and leave it at that.

With the exception of very few video games, although I may have pre-ordered them, I (and by I, what I really mean to say here is we) do not begin playing them on day one. Very few of them we will start on day one, and if we do start them on day one, either that is for the multiplayer aspect of it because we have a lot of friends who might be playing it and willing to play it with us and give us items or want to play alongside us. I do not have the time to devote to play a game on day one, and we have more than enough of a backlog not to make that feasible. I’ve also been burned by just enough people who take gaming that seriously not to want to jump into almost all of these games on day one, and I don’t want to burn myself out on gaming again to the point I don’t pick up games in a certain genre or games at all for several months. (As I mentioned in a previous entry, and for more than just that reason but… for a lot of that reason, this is why I burned out and essentially “retired from” YuGiOh! the card game. As mentioned, there were a lot of factors that went into that decision, but I would be lying if I didn’t mention the fact that one very specific individual and his actions influenced that to the extent that he did. It wound up being an extremely personal thing for me, and just as personal of a decision that I made for me that wound up bettering my mental health a lot.)

I’m also the kind of person who enjoys playing things on my own timetable… or, again, on our own timetable.

Telling me when to do what “just because” has never gone over well for reasons, as it is generally ill-advised.